Many therapeutic approaches, often unintentionally, reinforce the idea that the goal is better self-control, more regulation, and less reactivity.

Somatic work takes a different stance.

It says a lot about the values of mainstream society that couples therapy has become normalized and even encouraged, while friendship therapy is still seen as unusual or unnecessary. But where is that same support for friends?

When we’re able to feel our feelings in the body, fully and compassionately, we interrupt the cycle. We no longer need to keep layering behaviors on top of our pain to avoid it. And in doing so, we start unwinding those old patterns, thread by thread.

For a long time, I used to think I was just lazy when I felt like this. I’d beat myself up for not being able to “just get moving.” Learning that freeze is a survival response, not a personality flaw, has been one of the biggest gifts in my own healing. It gave me the compassion to say:

Limerence is a state of intense romantic infatuation, marked by intrusive thoughts, emotional highs and lows, and a deep longing for reciprocation. It can feel like love, but often, it’s more about what the person represents than who they really are.

The yogic traditions teach that the fundamental driver of human behavior is a mistaken sense of lack, born from forgetting our true nature and believing ourselves to be separate from the whole.

When we create inner safety for our younger parts, we build secure attachment to Self. And from there, we’re more able to co-create secure, differentiated connection with another human being.

Trauma might show up in our patterns of thinking, but the root of it lies in our bodies and nervous systems. That’s why somatic therapy and parts work (like Internal Family Systems) aim to bring the body and emotions into the healing process.

Is the idea of some untraumatized, fixed version of a “healthy person” actually useful?

An invitation to explore our own narcissistic parts with IFS.

The storylines of our dreams come from our subconscious and play out on the screens of our consciousness, often showing us things in images, sensations, or metaphors we would not access in waking life.

Sometimes in therapy, we explore the imaginal and mythic realms. 

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

— Anaïs Nin

Healing is paradox. It asks us to move forward by slowing down, to find safety in discomfort, to soften in order to become strong.

Orienting is a simple but powerful way to begin regulating the nervous system.

For many , especially us neuro diverse folks who struggle with executive functioning, clutter isn’t just a mess. It can be a source of shame, stress, and overwhelm.

For many people—myself included—parts work has been a meaningful tool in exploring gender identity. It helped me begin to understand and embrace my own non-binary identity by making space for the full spectrum of what lives inside me