Healing Beyond Survival: Therapy for Complex Trauma

Queer Trauma Therapist in Vancouver

What does complex trauma feel like?

Complex trauma often shows up as ongoing relational and emotional patterns rather than a single event.

You might feel emotionally overwhelmed or pulled between extremes,longing for connection one moment, and feeling shut down or flooded the next. Many people I work with notice anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment patterns that make relationships feel confusing, intense, or fragile.

You may have a strong understanding of your patterns, yet still find yourself caught in cycles that don’t seem to shift. This can show up as choosing short-term relief over what you want long-term, or feeling at war with yourself: one part coping, another criticizing, another just wanting rest or relief.

If you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive,” “too reactive,” or “too much,” that likely never told the whole story. When early experiences taught you that love, care, or attention were inconsistent or came with conditions, it makes sense that closeness could feel both necessary and terrifying.

Many of the people I work with are queer, trans, neurodivergent, or otherwise feel out of place in normative systems and traditional therapy spaces. Alongside relational wounds, there may also be identity-based harm, chronic misattunement, or the long-term impact of having to adapt, mask, or self-monitor to belong.

How can therapy help?

I work with people navigating complex trauma (PTSD and CPTSD), as well as those who’ve been diagnosed with trauma-related conditions such as borderline personality disorder (BPD) or dissociative identity disorder (DID). My approach is non-pathologizing and parts-oriented. I don’t see emotional intensity or relational struggle as something to fix, but as the imprint of survival strategies that once protected you.

Our work is somatic, relational, and experiential. Rather than relying only on insight or explanation, we slow down and attend to what’s happening in your body and inner world in real time. Using somatic and parts-based approaches, I support you in learning how to be with yourself differently, growing more choice, curiosity, and internal trust.

This work is especially supportive if insight alone hasn’t shifted things, and you’re drawn to embodied approaches that invite real change rather than self-management. Over time, this can support more emotional steadiness, clearer boundaries, and relationships that feel less exhausting and more possible,both with others and with yourself.

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